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Okay, so let’s say you’re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places in Florida you can go to practice your social skills and find dates. Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your […]

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Okay, so let’s say you’re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places in Florida you can go to practice your social skills and find dates.

Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your social skill is to hit the bars and clubs and mix it up there. Make as many approaches as you can and bank the experience. You’re going to get blown out, but suck it up because it’s part of the learning process. With that being said, I can totally understand if the club environment is intimidating and discourages you from making approaches.

Potential dates are everywhere and if you’re creative you can find good alternatives to the club scene. Use some of the methods below to supplement your social life. One big advantage to picking up chicks outside of the clubs is that generally they’re less defensive about being approached. If you’re a chick, obviously guys won’t mind if you approach and talk to them.

  1. College alumni clubs. Did you go to a big college somewhere? If the answer is yes and you live in a sizable town, it’s likely that there is an alumni group in your city. Join it and attend the meetings. Meetings are usually casual affairs, like happy hour on Friday night. I went to the University of Florida and there’s basically a Gator Club in every big city in the country. Contact your alumni relations office to get info or just do a Google search. At my college, they even have a Gator Singles group that you can join. The big advantage is that you always have something to talk about.
  2. Social/athletic clubs. Most decent size cities have tons of social or athletic leagues. Again, it’s a cinch to join and the meetings are usually affairs over cocktails and convo. See this site for an example in my hometown. An athletic club, say a co-ed soccer league, are mostly dudes and non-hotties, but these folks will often go out for drinks afterwards. Here’s a tip: use your new group as social proof to open complete strangers. Oh yeah, two other benefits are fitness and networking. I recently joined a sports club in Orlando and the social circle I’ve adopted there has turned out be AWESOME. The folks are attractive, work hard, play hard, and know how to have fun. It’s been one of the best moves I’ve made this year.
  3. Industry Night at the Bars. Industry nights are nights when the bars and clubs cater to people who work in bars and clubs. They run drink specials specifically for those folks. These are usually on Sunday through Tuesday, basically the off days for those businesses. Consult a local nightlife guide to get the downlow. Hit them, because industry workers are partiers and know how to socialize. If you’ve got a real job and make any sort of decent money, you have automatic social value because you have a “real” job.
  4. Concerts. I love concerts because there are HIGH concentrations of hotass chicks, even more so than a good Saturday night at the club. I went to a White Stripes show on a Tuesday night last year and I couldn’t believe how many amazing women were walking around. It was mind-blowing. The cooler the band, the hotter the women. Go outside where the smokers are and start chatting. Go to the bar and open the first set to your left. Even during the show you can open chicks standing around. Tip: Don’t forget to hit the bars after the concert as many of these people will go out for drinks.
  5. Sporting Events. They call Wrigley Field the World’s Biggest Singles Bar because people meet and hook up after taking in a Cubs game. No joke. Again, wander around, get a beer, chat people up. Have a smoke on the breezeway and open sets. Try a pro football, basketball, or hockey game. A big college football game is a friggin’ poon convention. If you’re rooting for the home team, you’ll always have something to talk about. Go hit the bars afterwards and open people wearing team gear.
  6. Host a Party. I could write a whole post about social circle game (and there are good articles out there), but throwing a party is one of the best ways to meet new people both during and before the party. Tip: A week or two before the party, hit the bars, make small talk with strangers, and invite them to your party.
  7. The Mall. This is a good one for aspiring pimps who are under the age of 21. Most of the chicks at malls are teenagers but you can often find a high end mall near a big city that has loads of well dressed HB’s wandering around. The Westshore Mall in Tampa is a place I’ve been to recently that had some crazy choocha flouncing around. I swear to God, I think beautiful women grow out of the walls there.
  8. Coffee Shops. Some people swear by day game at a coffee shop but honestly I’ve never seen high concentrations of chicks at the Starbucks in my town. Maybe I’m not looking at the right ones. Anyways, I do know plenty of folks who go there to use the wireless and surf the ‘net, so try it.

BONUS (post-edit): Just thought of this, and it’s a bit untested, but trying hitting up restaurants and fast fooderies near large work locations. For example, I went to a Chipotle yesterday across the street from a hospital and there were TONS of chicks (hot nurses), and some of them were eating alone. This requires a bit of skill and some speed, but could be a goldmine. Try opening with a simple, “Hey, how is your day?” or “What school did you go to?” as if she’s a bit familar.

Those are some good alternatives to bars and clubs. Basically, all you need is a place where large concentrations of people go and a bit of creativity. If you live in a walking city like NYC or Boston, you can also try meeting people just by walking down the street. Have any good alternative locations to meeting people? Leave in comments…

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Okay, so let’s say you’re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places in Florida you can go to practice your social skills and find dates. Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your […]

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Okay, so let’s say you’re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places in Florida you can go to practice your social skills and find dates.

Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your social skill is to hit the bars and clubs and mix it up there. Make as many approaches as you can and bank the experience. You’re going to get blown out, but suck it up because it’s part of the learning process. With that being said, I can totally understand if the club environment is intimidating and discourages you from making approaches.

Potential dates are everywhere and if you’re creative you can find good alternatives to the club scene. Use some of the methods below to supplement your social life. One big advantage to picking up chicks outside of the clubs is that generally they’re less defensive about being approached. If you’re a chick, obviously guys won’t mind if you approach and talk to them.

  1. College alumni clubs. Did you go to a big college somewhere? If the answer is yes and you live in a sizable town, it’s likely that there is an alumni group in your city. Join it and attend the meetings. Meetings are usually casual affairs, like happy hour on Friday night. I went to the University of Florida and there’s basically a Gator Club in every big city in the country. Contact your alumni relations office to get info or just do a Google search. At my college, they even have a Gator Singles group that you can join. The big advantage is that you always have something to talk about.
  2. Social/athletic clubs. Most decent size cities have tons of social or athletic leagues. Again, it’s a cinch to join and the meetings are usually affairs over cocktails and convo. See this site for an example in my hometown. An athletic club, say a co-ed soccer league, are mostly dudes and non-hotties, but these folks will often go out for drinks afterwards. Here’s a tip: use your new group as social proof to open complete strangers. Oh yeah, two other benefits are fitness and networking. I recently joined a sports club in Orlando and the social circle I’ve adopted there has turned out be AWESOME. The folks are attractive, work hard, play hard, and know how to have fun. It’s been one of the best moves I’ve made this year.
  3. Industry Night at the Bars. Industry nights are nights when the bars and clubs cater to people who work in bars and clubs. They run drink specials specifically for those folks. These are usually on Sunday through Tuesday, basically the off days for those businesses. Consult a local nightlife guide to get the downlow. Hit them, because industry workers are partiers and know how to socialize. If you’ve got a real job and make any sort of decent money, you have automatic social value because you have a “real” job.
  4. Concerts. I love concerts because there are HIGH concentrations of hotass chicks, even more so than a good Saturday night at the club. I went to a White Stripes show on a Tuesday night last year and I couldn’t believe how many amazing women were walking around. It was mind-blowing. The cooler the band, the hotter the women. Go outside where the smokers are and start chatting. Go to the bar and open the first set to your left. Even during the show you can open chicks standing around. Tip: Don’t forget to hit the bars after the concert as many of these people will go out for drinks.
  5. Sporting Events. They call Wrigley Field the World’s Biggest Singles Bar because people meet and hook up after taking in a Cubs game. No joke. Again, wander around, get a beer, chat people up. Have a smoke on the breezeway and open sets. Try a pro football, basketball, or hockey game. A big college football game is a friggin’ poon convention. If you’re rooting for the home team, you’ll always have something to talk about. Go hit the bars afterwards and open people wearing team gear.
  6. Host a Party. I could write a whole post about social circle game (and there are good articles out there), but throwing a party is one of the best ways to meet new people both during and before the party. Tip: A week or two before the party, hit the bars, make small talk with strangers, and invite them to your party.
  7. The Mall. This is a good one for aspiring pimps who are under the age of 21. Most of the chicks at malls are teenagers but you can often find a high end mall near a big city that has loads of well dressed HB’s wandering around. The Westshore Mall in Tampa is a place I’ve been to recently that had some crazy choocha flouncing around. I swear to God, I think beautiful women grow out of the walls there.
  8. Coffee Shops. Some people swear by day game at a coffee shop but honestly I’ve never seen high concentrations of chicks at the Starbucks in my town. Maybe I’m not looking at the right ones. Anyways, I do know plenty of folks who go there to use the wireless and surf the ‘net, so try it.

BONUS (post-edit): Just thought of this, and it’s a bit untested, but trying hitting up restaurants and fast fooderies near large work locations. For example, I went to a Chipotle yesterday across the street from a hospital and there were TONS of chicks (hot nurses), and some of them were eating alone. This requires a bit of skill and some speed, but could be a goldmine. Try opening with a simple, “Hey, how is your day?” or “What school did you go to?” as if she’s a bit familar.

Those are some good alternatives to bars and clubs. Basically, all you need is a place where large concentrations of people go and a bit of creativity. If you live in a walking city like NYC or Boston, you can also try meeting people just by walking down the street. Have any good alternative locations to meeting people? Leave in comments…

The post 8 Alternative Places to Find Dates in Florida appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The other day while going about my usual business, I switched on the radio. The topic of the day was dating. What was surprising was the advice they were peddling. It was the worst, and really just the standard crappy advice a lot of humdrum dating experts are repeating like gospel these days. The radio […]

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The other day while going about my usual business, I switched on the radio. The topic of the day was dating. What was surprising was the advice they were peddling. It was the worst, and really just the standard crappy advice a lot of humdrum dating experts are repeating like gospel these days. The radio host was suggesting that men and women stop looking for a date and just wait for it to happen. His co-hosts were all agreeing with this destructive advice he was offering, and adding their own useless two cents worth.

This radio host explained that two years prior, he hadn’t been looking for a date, just rushing home on Friday night to catch his favorite television shows, when his friends hooked him up on a blind date with a nice woman. The touching part was when he thanked his friends for looking out for him and said if he had not gotten lucky, he’d most likely still be single and watching television shows all alone on a Friday night.

This guy thinks that getting a date is like playing the lottery. He thinks it’s all about luck. When you’re looking for a job, do you sit at home hoping and praying that by some miracle some employer will come knocking on your door offering you a job? Of course not! When you want a job, you do everything you can to prepare yourself to be employable and then you go out knocking on doors until someone hires you. So then why don’t we do the same when we’re trying to attract and find a date with the opposite sex?

It’s because in order to get a date, we have to first evaluate our weaknesses and then take the necessary steps in order to improve ourselves to become more attractive to the opposite sex. This not only involves work but also the sacrifice of putting ourselves out there with the risk of being rejected. It’s much easier to just sit there and wait for luck to bring to us what we desire. We tend to keep following this same pattern until we start wondering what’s wrong with us, followed by a dive in confidence, and eventually giving up all together. With a lot of hard work, you will not only be able to get a date but also actually become the person you’ve always wanted to be by first discovering what areas in your dating you need to improve upon.

The dating beginner should focus on improving their personal and social life

1. Do you talk to people on a daily basis when you’re at the grocery store, movie rental store, or riding the bus home at night after work?

2. Are you capable of meeting new people and making new friends when out at social events?

3. Any unique or interesting hobbies that you can talk about that others will find interesting?

4. Do you have any goals or a career that you’re passionate about?

5. If you’re a man, have you ever approached or started a conversation with a woman before in your life – and if not, what are you waiting for?

The intermediate dater should work on displaying personality and improving conversation skills

1. Once you start a conversation, do you possess the necessary skills to keep it going?

2. Does your personality shine through when you’re talking to others (unique interests, hopes, dreams, outlook on life, etc)?

3. Are you pleasant to be around due to having a positive attitude and respect towards others?

4. Do you dress well and keep yourself well-groomed?

5. Is your attitude towards your ex or the opposite sex positive or negative?

6. Is constant swearing a part of your normal language?

Expert daters are great at getting the attention of the opposite sex and getting a date at the end

1. Are you good at displaying confidence by entertaining groups of people?

2. Do you change how you feel about certain subjects to please others, or do you hold your ground?

3. Are you comfortable letting the opposite sex know when you’re attracted to them?

4. If you’re a man, have you ever asked a woman you were talking to for her phone number?

Remember that waiting for a date is a trap, because the longer you isolate yourself from social settings and interacting with the opposite sex, the more out of practice you become and the lower your confidence sinks. If you’re a man, be a man of action. A man doesn’t wait around hoping that whatever he desires will come to him by luck. He goes out and gets what he wants whether it’s a job, starting a business or getting a date with the attractive girl that works at the public library. He makes no excuses over what he likes or wants and realizes that life is too short not to go for what you want. Besides, what’s the worst that can happen? Even if you do fail, it’s better to try and fail than to never try at all and fail even before you get started. Then again, you might surprise yourself and succeed. Now get out there and get a date already and then tell me all about it.

The post Don’t Wait For A Date appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The post Don’t Wait For A Date appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The other day while going about my usual business, I switched on the radio. The topic of the day was dating. What was surprising was the advice they were peddling. It was the worst, and really just the standard crappy advice a lot of humdrum dating experts are repeating like gospel these days. The radio host was suggesting that men and women stop looking for a date and just wait for it to happen. His co-hosts were all agreeing with this destructive advice he was offering, and adding their own useless two cents worth.

This radio host explained that two years prior, he hadn’t been looking for a date, just rushing home on Friday night to catch his favorite television shows, when his friends hooked him up on a blind date with a nice woman. The touching part was when he thanked his friends for looking out for him and said if he had not gotten lucky, he’d most likely still be single and watching television shows all alone on a Friday night.

This guy thinks that getting a date is like playing the lottery. He thinks it’s all about luck. When you’re looking for a job, do you sit at home hoping and praying that by some miracle some employer will come knocking on your door offering you a job? Of course not! When you want a job, you do everything you can to prepare yourself to be employable and then you go out knocking on doors until someone hires you. So then why don’t we do the same when we’re trying to attract and find a date with the opposite sex?

It’s because in order to get a date, we have to first evaluate our weaknesses and then take the necessary steps in order to improve ourselves to become more attractive to the opposite sex. This not only involves work but also the sacrifice of putting ourselves out there with the risk of being rejected. It’s much easier to just sit there and wait for luck to bring to us what we desire. We tend to keep following this same pattern until we start wondering what’s wrong with us, followed by a dive in confidence, and eventually giving up all together. With a lot of hard work, you will not only be able to get a date but also actually become the person you’ve always wanted to be by first discovering what areas in your dating you need to improve upon.

The dating beginner should focus on improving their personal and social life

1. Do you talk to people on a daily basis when you’re at the grocery store, movie rental store, or riding the bus home at night after work?

2. Are you capable of meeting new people and making new friends when out at social events?

3. Any unique or interesting hobbies that you can talk about that others will find interesting?

4. Do you have any goals or a career that you’re passionate about?

5. If you’re a man, have you ever approached or started a conversation with a woman before in your life – and if not, what are you waiting for?

The intermediate dater should work on displaying personality and improving conversation skills

1. Once you start a conversation, do you possess the necessary skills to keep it going?

2. Does your personality shine through when you’re talking to others (unique interests, hopes, dreams, outlook on life, etc)?

3. Are you pleasant to be around due to having a positive attitude and respect towards others?

4. Do you dress well and keep yourself well-groomed?

5. Is your attitude towards your ex or the opposite sex positive or negative?

6. Is constant swearing a part of your normal language?

Expert daters are great at getting the attention of the opposite sex and getting a date at the end

1. Are you good at displaying confidence by entertaining groups of people?

2. Do you change how you feel about certain subjects to please others, or do you hold your ground?

3. Are you comfortable letting the opposite sex know when you’re attracted to them?

4. If you’re a man, have you ever asked a woman you were talking to for her phone number?

Remember that waiting for a date is a trap, because the longer you isolate yourself from social settings and interacting with the opposite sex, the more out of practice you become and the lower your confidence sinks. If you’re a man, be a man of action. A man doesn’t wait around hoping that whatever he desires will come to him by luck. He goes out and gets what he wants whether it’s a job, starting a business or getting a date with the attractive girl that works at the public library. He makes no excuses over what he likes or wants and realizes that life is too short not to go for what you want. Besides, what’s the worst that can happen? Even if you do fail, it’s better to try and fail than to never try at all and fail even before you get started. Then again, you might surprise yourself and succeed. Now get out there and get a date already and then tell me all about it.

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To the loyal readers who come to this website, many of you may come to expect that I talk a lot about dating. This is great, seeing as dating is a huge topic that many people write about and discuss, yet know so little about. They tend to look at dating as a one-size fits […]

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To the loyal readers who come to this website, many of you may come to expect that I talk a lot about dating. This is great, seeing as dating is a huge topic that many people write about and discuss, yet know so little about. They tend to look at dating as a one-size fits all approach, as if every single guy and girl will always act the same under the same circumstances and environment.

Some men and women will actually make the first move, while others will sit by waiting for the perfect moment to position themselves in the right location in order to so conveniently meet that other person of their dreams. Others will cut through all the normal steps and B.S., and walk right up and introduce themselves. Sometimes this approach will work and other times it won’t.

Then there are other factors that can also change the whole dynamic of meeting another person. Has the person been drinking? Did someone else walk up to that person and say something inappropriate a few seconds before you showed up? Maybe that person just had a bad day or just broke up with their significant other.

Of course, there’s always the fact that you are looking for love in all the right places. For those who come here often, you already know how much I despise the idea of meeting someone in a bar or club. Not only does the other person expect you to be there to pick someone up for casual sex, but the ones you are able to pick up most likely go home with other people all the time. Do you really want to take run the risk of getting a disease by sleeping with someone you hardly know and who may have slept with hundreds of other people?

There are many people out there these days who don’t want relationships or don’t have a problem cheating on their husbands or wives. And with people being more open to sleeping around without being married these days, including with the same sex, your risk goes up even more now. A guy might not have only slept with fifty women but also fifty men for all you know. Same thing with women. And you have no clue as to whether they practice safe sex or not. With everybody sleeping around these days, even a condom can’t protect you against every disease out there.

And then there are relationships that everybody wants to give you advice about as if they know your circumstances exactly or what your significant other is thinking. They will tell you that the other person doesn’t love you or is cheating on you without knowing all the facts. Many experts tend to forget that when people get into a relationship, there’s always going to be something that the other person does that annoys you. Maybe he or she makes a noise when drinking their tea in the morning that just irks you to no end. He or she may stay out a bit after work because they have a few things on their mind and the best way to figure it out is having time alone. That person might not even communicate well at some times because they have insecurities and are afraid of what you might think if they tell you.

Many dating experts and even family members will make snap judgements about a relationship without having the ability to look at it from a realistic point of view. This tends not to provide any benefits to the person that needs the advice. When it comes to meeting someone or working on your relationship, don’t listen to others who have their own agendas, because most of the time they are completely wrong. Instead use good, common sense and work on talking to the other person you love in a calm and non-judgmental way. Make sure that you listen to how they feel and try to see things from their point of view. A lot of times after really looking at a situation, you will learn that you were making assumptions that were completely wrong and sabotaging your own relationship without even knowing it.

If you do need a professional after all this, don’t listen to the commercialized dating experts that talk a big game but really don’t know anything at all. Shop around and choose wisely from a real expert and not a television one. After all, many people truly aren’t professionals and communication with your loved one is usually the most effective option.

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To the loyal readers who come to this website, many of you may come to expect that I talk a lot about dating. This is great, seeing as dating is a huge topic that many people write about and discuss, yet know so little about. They tend to look at dating as a one-size fits […]

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To the loyal readers who come to this website, many of you may come to expect that I talk a lot about dating. This is great, seeing as dating is a huge topic that many people write about and discuss, yet know so little about. They tend to look at dating as a one-size fits all approach, as if every single guy and girl will always act the same under the same circumstances and environment.

Some men and women will actually make the first move, while others will sit by waiting for the perfect moment to position themselves in the right location in order to so conveniently meet that other person of their dreams. Others will cut through all the normal steps and B.S., and walk right up and introduce themselves. Sometimes this approach will work and other times it won’t.

Then there are other factors that can also change the whole dynamic of meeting another person. Has the person been drinking? Did someone else walk up to that person and say something inappropriate a few seconds before you showed up? Maybe that person just had a bad day or just broke up with their significant other.

Of course, there’s always the fact that you are looking for love in all the right places. For those who come here often, you already know how much I despise the idea of meeting someone in a bar or club. Not only does the other person expect you to be there to pick someone up for casual sex, but the ones you are able to pick up most likely go home with other people all the time. Do you really want to take run the risk of getting a disease by sleeping with someone you hardly know and who may have slept with hundreds of other people?

There are many people out there these days who don’t want relationships or don’t have a problem cheating on their husbands or wives. And with people being more open to sleeping around without being married these days, including with the same sex, your risk goes up even more now. A guy might not have only slept with fifty women but also fifty men for all you know. Same thing with women. And you have no clue as to whether they practice safe sex or not. With everybody sleeping around these days, even a condom can’t protect you against every disease out there.

And then there are relationships that everybody wants to give you advice about as if they know your circumstances exactly or what your significant other is thinking. They will tell you that the other person doesn’t love you or is cheating on you without knowing all the facts. Many experts tend to forget that when people get into a relationship, there’s always going to be something that the other person does that annoys you. Maybe he or she makes a noise when drinking their tea in the morning that just irks you to no end. He or she may stay out a bit after work because they have a few things on their mind and the best way to figure it out is having time alone. That person might not even communicate well at some times because they have insecurities and are afraid of what you might think if they tell you.

Many dating experts and even family members will make snap judgements about a relationship without having the ability to look at it from a realistic point of view. This tends not to provide any benefits to the person that needs the advice. When it comes to meeting someone or working on your relationship, don’t listen to others who have their own agendas, because most of the time they are completely wrong. Instead use good, common sense and work on talking to the other person you love in a calm and non-judgmental way. Make sure that you listen to how they feel and try to see things from their point of view. A lot of times after really looking at a situation, you will learn that you were making assumptions that were completely wrong and sabotaging your own relationship without even knowing it.

If you do need a professional after all this, don’t listen to the commercialized dating experts that talk a big game but really don’t know anything at all. Shop around and choose wisely from a real expert and not a television one. After all, many people truly aren’t professionals and communication with your loved one is usually the most effective option.

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In the dating game it has always been a debated topic of whether we should date a lot of random people (quantity) or wait for the perfect one (quality).  Why should quantity be so important? Well I think that there are a number of advantages and disadvantages when it comes to quantity over quality or […]

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In the dating game it has always been a debated topic of whether we should date a lot of random people (quantity) or wait for the perfect one (quality).  Why should quantity be so important? Well I think that there are a number of advantages and disadvantages when it comes to quantity over quality or vice versa.

One of the reasons with going out with plenty of guys is that you get back into your dating grove. You seem happier because your time is being spent with all these different guys who want to adore you and make you happy. You’re learning to become more feminine again, to learn how to receive again and remembering how much fun it actually is to date again.

You get to meet a whole variety of men and because of this you are not desperate to latch onto JUST one. Men can’t smell your desperation because you don’t have any. In fact they are more interested in you because they actually have to chase you and attempt to win you over from all the other guys.

Also dating guys without being too judgmental means that you give them a chance. Yes you might have better impressions with other guys … But surprisingly after going on a few dates with one particular guy, they can really grow on you. You might learn something about them, which you find very attractive.

As well as this, dating lots of these people allows you to appreciate them for all their different qualities. After you have gone through this, there may be certain characteristics in a guy that you find really appealing that you didn’t know that you did before!

But the biggest advantage of going out there and getting dates and seeing people is that you learn to enjoy yourself more. You are so much more date worthy because going on all these dates, makes it that much easier to smile at that cute guy who walks past you in the shopping centre. It makes it just that much easier to flirt with someone you got introduced to. It makes you more appealing and more open and approachable to that guy that you have been waiting to find!

With that said, to a certain extent you have to be a little selective in who you go out with. Like they shouldn’t be axe murderers or anything like that. With online dating, it’s always best to listen to your intuition. If you think about them and the first thing that comes to mind is not a good feeling, then simply don’t go.

But if you feel perfectly safe and happy to go on the date then go. Its no big deal, just a chance to meet up with someone, say hello and possibly even have a good time *gasp* – what have you go to lose? =)

So while I say dating lots of guys can be great in getting you much more open and approachable, I think dating quality guys is the key.

The number one thing, in having a happy relationship is the selection of your partner. Really the aim of dating someone more suitable to you … should be to find someone who is able to accept and love you for the person you are and who brings out the best in you.

A lot of relationships fail because two great people have gotten together because of attraction, but ultimately don’t really match. Their “natures” and who they are as a person at their core level are the not same. For example. The girl in the relationship on a nature base loves to give. She gives her time, her energy and her money to things she believes are worthy of it. Her partner is someone who is more focused on himself. He believes in taking more than giving, is ambitious and wants to become a Hollywood star and doesn’t care who he has to step on to make his way to the top.

So many that was an exaggerated example, but hopefully you get to see the point that im making. So in terms of quality, its better to really seriously date people who are more aligned with you on that level. So that way there is a lot less of these barriers to overcome.

So with all that said, I guess my conclusion is that quantity and quality are equally as important as each other.

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In the dating game it has always been a debated topic of whether we should date a lot of random people (quantity) or wait for the perfect one (quality).  Why should quantity be so important? Well I think that there are a number of advantages and disadvantages when it comes to quantity over quality or […]

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In the dating game it has always been a debated topic of whether we should date a lot of random people (quantity) or wait for the perfect one (quality).  Why should quantity be so important? Well I think that there are a number of advantages and disadvantages when it comes to quantity over quality or vice versa.

One of the reasons with going out with plenty of guys is that you get back into your dating grove. You seem happier because your time is being spent with all these different guys who want to adore you and make you happy. You’re learning to become more feminine again, to learn how to receive again and remembering how much fun it actually is to date again.

You get to meet a whole variety of men and because of this you are not desperate to latch onto JUST one. Men can’t smell your desperation because you don’t have any. In fact they are more interested in you because they actually have to chase you and attempt to win you over from all the other guys.

Also dating guys without being too judgmental means that you give them a chance. Yes you might have better impressions with other guys … But surprisingly after going on a few dates with one particular guy, they can really grow on you. You might learn something about them, which you find very attractive.

As well as this, dating lots of these people allows you to appreciate them for all their different qualities. After you have gone through this, there may be certain characteristics in a guy that you find really appealing that you didn’t know that you did before!

But the biggest advantage of going out there and getting dates and seeing people is that you learn to enjoy yourself more. You are so much more date worthy because going on all these dates, makes it that much easier to smile at that cute guy who walks past you in the shopping centre. It makes it just that much easier to flirt with someone you got introduced to. It makes you more appealing and more open and approachable to that guy that you have been waiting to find!

With that said, to a certain extent you have to be a little selective in who you go out with. Like they shouldn’t be axe murderers or anything like that. With online dating, it’s always best to listen to your intuition. If you think about them and the first thing that comes to mind is not a good feeling, then simply don’t go.

But if you feel perfectly safe and happy to go on the date then go. Its no big deal, just a chance to meet up with someone, say hello and possibly even have a good time *gasp* – what have you go to lose? =)

So while I say dating lots of guys can be great in getting you much more open and approachable, I think dating quality guys is the key.

The number one thing, in having a happy relationship is the selection of your partner. Really the aim of dating someone more suitable to you … should be to find someone who is able to accept and love you for the person you are and who brings out the best in you.

A lot of relationships fail because two great people have gotten together because of attraction, but ultimately don’t really match. Their “natures” and who they are as a person at their core level are the not same. For example. The girl in the relationship on a nature base loves to give. She gives her time, her energy and her money to things she believes are worthy of it. Her partner is someone who is more focused on himself. He believes in taking more than giving, is ambitious and wants to become a Hollywood star and doesn’t care who he has to step on to make his way to the top.

So many that was an exaggerated example, but hopefully you get to see the point that im making. So in terms of quality, its better to really seriously date people who are more aligned with you on that level. So that way there is a lot less of these barriers to overcome.

So with all that said, I guess my conclusion is that quantity and quality are equally as important as each other.

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We have a number of people always asking, what they should do, what they should say and how they should act when “xyz” happens when it comes to dating, men and women. Most of the time I’m hesitant in saying … “do this” or “do that” because the truth of the matter is, every situation […]

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We have a number of people always asking, what they should do, what they should say and how they should act when “xyz” happens when it comes to dating, men and women.

Most of the time I’m hesitant in saying … “do this” or “do that” because the truth of the matter is, every situation is so very different. So trying to act in a predefined way, is probably the worse thing that you can possibly do! You want to know why?

Because you start to second guess yourself. You start to doubt yourself. You start to hesitate. You start to hold back. And you stop being able to access your personal power which makes you attractive and not to mention magnetic to everyone around you.

I can tell you right now, that its your hesitation and its your inability to act upon and listen to that inner voice within us all which ALWAYS know exactly what to do, what to say and how to act.

If there is anything I can teach you guys, is that you must cultivate and act upon your gut or intuitive feelings.

Men, it will tell you when you must approach a particular woman or when you should say a particular thing. Women it will tell you if this guy is really into you or not and if he has good intentions.

It will tell you about whether to trust someone, whether they like you or not, whether you should continue seeing them, or if there is something that is just “off” about them. In fact it will answer all of your questions better than any other person, any other piece of dating advice and any one of my blog posts.

I can tell you right now, if we don’t listen to our intuition, we often pay the price. Broken hearts, shattered dreams and plenty of disappointment.

So how can you learn to cultivate this more in your dating life?

Go by feeling rather than reason.

I think the reason why many of us have not been able to more fully develop our intuitive abilities, is because some of the things that it points at, seems ridiculous. In fact most of the time intuitive feelings never make logical sense. Maybe they hint for you to say or doing something that seems bizarre or completely insane. The only way you can learn to cultivate your intuition is act upon what it tells you. So next time you have a guy feeling, no matter what it is, just act upon it and see what happens.

Go with the moment.

You hear a lot of advice about people saying to take it slow. I say take it at whatever dam pace you want to. If you want to kiss them within the first hour on the date, then do it. If you want to say something completely random, even though you just met, say it! Don’t get bogged down in what you “should” or “could” say and don’t start listing 101 things that you need to check off before you start a relationship with him or her, go with the moment, see where it takes you and don’t allow all these false rules which don’t apply to you, to get in the way. Men in particular. This means if you want to make a move on a woman, go for it! Don’t think to yourself, well I’ve only known her for blah blah blah amount of time, I don’t want to scare her off …. Leave no time for thinking and more time for acting! Your hesitation and indecisiveness is what puts her off.

See things as they really are.

You create unnecessary drama when you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and the other person. Women in particular fall into the trap of projecting all their hopes and desires onto this one man. This creates a lot of pressure on this poor guy who has just met you … who gets crush by the large weight of all your expectations.

Honor the man you are interested in by just seeing him as he truly is. Don’t get caught up in daydreaming, if he will fit into the 2.3 kids and white picket fence picture – just sense whether or not your enjoy his company and if you want to continue to be in his presence or not. Simple.

My last point would be to really keep it simple.

And keep your mind clear. It is your mind; that makes you doubt yourself, that creates false expectations, that dreams up all these weird scenarios of which 99.9% will never ever happen. If you can learn to cultivate a mind which is a little more quiet and your allow your intuition to become the commander rather than the crew, then you will see a whole new world open up to you.

Readers, do you have any stories about why you should have listened to your intuition?

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We have a number of people always asking, what they should do, what they should say and how they should act when “xyz” happens when it comes to dating, men and women. Most of the time I’m hesitant in saying … “do this” or “do that” because the truth of the matter is, every situation […]

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We have a number of people always asking, what they should do, what they should say and how they should act when “xyz” happens when it comes to dating, men and women.

Most of the time I’m hesitant in saying … “do this” or “do that” because the truth of the matter is, every situation is so very different. So trying to act in a predefined way, is probably the worse thing that you can possibly do! You want to know why?

Because you start to second guess yourself. You start to doubt yourself. You start to hesitate. You start to hold back. And you stop being able to access your personal power which makes you attractive and not to mention magnetic to everyone around you.

I can tell you right now, that its your hesitation and its your inability to act upon and listen to that inner voice within us all which ALWAYS know exactly what to do, what to say and how to act.

If there is anything I can teach you guys, is that you must cultivate and act upon your gut or intuitive feelings.

Men, it will tell you when you must approach a particular woman or when you should say a particular thing. Women it will tell you if this guy is really into you or not and if he has good intentions.

It will tell you about whether to trust someone, whether they like you or not, whether you should continue seeing them, or if there is something that is just “off” about them. In fact it will answer all of your questions better than any other person, any other piece of dating advice and any one of my blog posts.

I can tell you right now, if we don’t listen to our intuition, we often pay the price. Broken hearts, shattered dreams and plenty of disappointment.

So how can you learn to cultivate this more in your dating life?

Go by feeling rather than reason.

I think the reason why many of us have not been able to more fully develop our intuitive abilities, is because some of the things that it points at, seems ridiculous. In fact most of the time intuitive feelings never make logical sense. Maybe they hint for you to say or doing something that seems bizarre or completely insane. The only way you can learn to cultivate your intuition is act upon what it tells you. So next time you have a guy feeling, no matter what it is, just act upon it and see what happens.

Go with the moment.

You hear a lot of advice about people saying to take it slow. I say take it at whatever dam pace you want to. If you want to kiss them within the first hour on the date, then do it. If you want to say something completely random, even though you just met, say it! Don’t get bogged down in what you “should” or “could” say and don’t start listing 101 things that you need to check off before you start a relationship with him or her, go with the moment, see where it takes you and don’t allow all these false rules which don’t apply to you, to get in the way. Men in particular. This means if you want to make a move on a woman, go for it! Don’t think to yourself, well I’ve only known her for blah blah blah amount of time, I don’t want to scare her off …. Leave no time for thinking and more time for acting! Your hesitation and indecisiveness is what puts her off.

See things as they really are.

You create unnecessary drama when you have unrealistic expectations of yourself and the other person. Women in particular fall into the trap of projecting all their hopes and desires onto this one man. This creates a lot of pressure on this poor guy who has just met you … who gets crush by the large weight of all your expectations.

Honor the man you are interested in by just seeing him as he truly is. Don’t get caught up in daydreaming, if he will fit into the 2.3 kids and white picket fence picture – just sense whether or not your enjoy his company and if you want to continue to be in his presence or not. Simple.

My last point would be to really keep it simple.

And keep your mind clear. It is your mind; that makes you doubt yourself, that creates false expectations, that dreams up all these weird scenarios of which 99.9% will never ever happen. If you can learn to cultivate a mind which is a little more quiet and your allow your intuition to become the commander rather than the crew, then you will see a whole new world open up to you.

Readers, do you have any stories about why you should have listened to your intuition?

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In my article, What The Dating Gurus Don’t Want You To Know, I shared my dislike about where the dating industry has gone and where it is heading. As far as I’m concerned, the dating industry has become way too commercialized, with a new dating guru popping up so often that it’s like a bunch […]

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In my article, What The Dating Gurus Don’t Want You To Know, I shared my dislike about where the dating industry has gone and where it is heading.

As far as I’m concerned, the dating industry has become way too commercialized, with a new dating guru popping up so often that it’s like a bunch of roaches running when the lights come on. Running to get your hard-earned cash by offering a new technique or whole dating system or boot camp that promises you more sex than you could ever handle.

Most dating gurus would love to have all of their students take their boot camps at the cost of thousands of dollars and practice their fake confidence-building systems at the night club. If they did, they’d be multimillionaires in no time. The problem is that it’s impossible to bring every aspiring Casanova with them, and most of them cannot afford the high cost to attend the boot camp. So what did the dating gurus do instead?

They discovered that they could take all of this tired, useless information and put it into books instead. By doing this, they could now reach more students than ever before by selling the books on their websites. Now every dateless guy could practice the system developed by their favorite dating guru without having to attend boot camps. Now the dating gurus were making more money than ever – while doing much less work – due to the widespread distribution of their books.

Many guys finally smarten up and realize that these books are complete garbage, because they don’t actually help them but instead hurt them. Here’s a little secret. It’s usually the commercialized crap that’s available by some very well-known author. There are many great books out there that will help you improve your dating success. You just have to be very careful with the type of book you buy. I’m going to tell you exactly what to watch out for when buying them.

A cover with a half-naked women with the promise of getting lots of sex

Many dating gurus feed off men’s desperation by putting a half-naked woman on the front cover with a fancy title saying, “Gets lots of women into bed.” This is very smart marketing on the dating gurus’ part because the image of the women gets the guy’s hormones raging while the title promises that he will be able to sleep with tons of women. The problem with these types of books is that they don’t actually teach you the necessary conversation skills in order to be able to talk to anybody, let alone a woman you’re attracted to. Books like this are full of excitement and more fluff than cotton candy, but lack any real information on improving your social skills. Instead, you should purchase books that teach you how to talk to anybody, whether it’s a co-worker, job interviewer, and yes, the cute woman at the deli who you might be attracted to.

Teaches memorized scripts

Memorizing phony scripts is just a crutch to not actually improve yourself and actually get a real life. This fake confidence might work to help you meet a woman, and maybe get a date if you’re lucky…but what happens after you run out of memorized garbage to talk about, especially after she finds out that you have nothing exciting going on in your life besides picking up women. And wait until she finds out that you can’t even afford to pay for the meal since you’re jobless. Instead, I’d suggest buying books about how to start a business or get a great career, and it never hurts to read books about how to improve confidence, too. Also, don’t be afraid to purchase books teaching you how to do unique hobbies.

Calls women foul names

Have you ever read a book about dating, only to find the author constantly bashing women and calling them a bunch of foul names? Think about the last time you were out somewhere and saw a guy approach a woman, only to get rejected by her. Remember how he walked away while looking like a fool and calling her names. Hardly a guy who’s successful with women, right?

Now think about this raving maniac author who’s doing the same while telling you how he’s unlocked the code to meeting tons of women and magically getting them into bed. If you guessed it sounds like the same guy, you’re right. Any guy who’s as successful with women as he claims would not put women down or call them names. Guys who are angry with women are usually the ones who have been rejected by them.

In conclusion

This list that I’ve provided is no way complete, but merely the main ones that are in these so-called dating gurus books, and a tell-tale sign that they are completely full of crap. You can do much better with books that teach other skills such as conversational skills, business start-up, and career advancement or hobbies. Not only will these books make you more successful in the end, but they will also improve your social skills by giving you something interesting to talk about.

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In my article, What The Dating Gurus Don’t Want You To Know, I shared my dislike about where the dating industry has gone and where it is heading. As far as I’m concerned, the dating industry has become way too commercialized, with a new dating guru popping up so often that it’s like a bunch […]

The post A Guide To Buying Dating Books appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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In my article, What The Dating Gurus Don’t Want You To Know, I shared my dislike about where the dating industry has gone and where it is heading.

As far as I’m concerned, the dating industry has become way too commercialized, with a new dating guru popping up so often that it’s like a bunch of roaches running when the lights come on. Running to get your hard-earned cash by offering a new technique or whole dating system or boot camp that promises you more sex than you could ever handle.

Most dating gurus would love to have all of their students take their boot camps at the cost of thousands of dollars and practice their fake confidence-building systems at the night club. If they did, they’d be multimillionaires in no time. The problem is that it’s impossible to bring every aspiring Casanova with them, and most of them cannot afford the high cost to attend the boot camp. So what did the dating gurus do instead?

They discovered that they could take all of this tired, useless information and put it into books instead. By doing this, they could now reach more students than ever before by selling the books on their websites. Now every dateless guy could practice the system developed by their favorite dating guru without having to attend boot camps. Now the dating gurus were making more money than ever – while doing much less work – due to the widespread distribution of their books.

Many guys finally smarten up and realize that these books are complete garbage, because they don’t actually help them but instead hurt them. Here’s a little secret. It’s usually the commercialized crap that’s available by some very well-known author. There are many great books out there that will help you improve your dating success. You just have to be very careful with the type of book you buy. I’m going to tell you exactly what to watch out for when buying them.

A cover with a half-naked women with the promise of getting lots of sex

Many dating gurus feed off men’s desperation by putting a half-naked woman on the front cover with a fancy title saying, “Gets lots of women into bed.” This is very smart marketing on the dating gurus’ part because the image of the women gets the guy’s hormones raging while the title promises that he will be able to sleep with tons of women. The problem with these types of books is that they don’t actually teach you the necessary conversation skills in order to be able to talk to anybody, let alone a woman you’re attracted to. Books like this are full of excitement and more fluff than cotton candy, but lack any real information on improving your social skills. Instead, you should purchase books that teach you how to talk to anybody, whether it’s a co-worker, job interviewer, and yes, the cute woman at the deli who you might be attracted to.

Teaches memorized scripts

Memorizing phony scripts is just a crutch to not actually improve yourself and actually get a real life. This fake confidence might work to help you meet a woman, and maybe get a date if you’re lucky…but what happens after you run out of memorized garbage to talk about, especially after she finds out that you have nothing exciting going on in your life besides picking up women. And wait until she finds out that you can’t even afford to pay for the meal since you’re jobless. Instead, I’d suggest buying books about how to start a business or get a great career, and it never hurts to read books about how to improve confidence, too. Also, don’t be afraid to purchase books teaching you how to do unique hobbies.

Calls women foul names

Have you ever read a book about dating, only to find the author constantly bashing women and calling them a bunch of foul names? Think about the last time you were out somewhere and saw a guy approach a woman, only to get rejected by her. Remember how he walked away while looking like a fool and calling her names. Hardly a guy who’s successful with women, right?

Now think about this raving maniac author who’s doing the same while telling you how he’s unlocked the code to meeting tons of women and magically getting them into bed. If you guessed it sounds like the same guy, you’re right. Any guy who’s as successful with women as he claims would not put women down or call them names. Guys who are angry with women are usually the ones who have been rejected by them.

In conclusion

This list that I’ve provided is no way complete, but merely the main ones that are in these so-called dating gurus books, and a tell-tale sign that they are completely full of crap. You can do much better with books that teach other skills such as conversational skills, business start-up, and career advancement or hobbies. Not only will these books make you more successful in the end, but they will also improve your social skills by giving you something interesting to talk about.

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It doesn’t matter who you are, everyone enjoys observing a body in motion. The human body is a magnificent machine, and when you are interested in someone, the way they move comfortably in their skin will increase your attraction. Women often tell each other, a great dancer is great in bed, and men think all […]

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It doesn’t matter who you are, everyone enjoys observing a body in motion. The human body is a magnificent machine, and when you are interested in someone, the way they move comfortably in their skin will increase your attraction. Women often tell each other, a great dancer is great in bed, and men think all yoga enthusiasts can perform amazing sex positions. Is there some truth to these beliefs? Perhaps, but the reality is attraction is always increased when men and women watch each other move.

The Action (or adventure) date capitalizes on this notion and will keep you in a woman’s memory for a long time. The ‘lunch date’, ‘dinner and a movie’, or ‘quick drinks at the bar’ have been done many times and doesn’t feel any different, no matter how great the location. Women learn how you treat servers and what you like to eat – but the date itself isn’t eventful or memorable. They can experience the same type of date with their girlfriends and family members. It doesn’t push us out of our comfort zone and make us rely on your wisdom and expertise.

Different activities on a date will create a bond of trust in both parties and build togetherness. By embarking on an action date, a couple can start building a collection of special things they have done as a team. Think about the following, when planning an action date with a woman you’re interested in getting to know better:

Have You Always Been Active?

Yes, all of us have been asked this question and all of us say, “Yes, I like to do (fill in the blank)”, but do you know how to spot when a woman is lying about how active she is? That’s right; you plan an action date. Dancing, walking, jogging, and hiking can be done in various places. You can pack a picnic meal and hike to a nice place to enjoy the fresh air and no-pressure conversations will happen when you’re concentrating on completing a task together.

No one wants to tell a person they’re dating that their lifestyles aren’t compatible, but everyone knows, an active person prefers an equally active mate. Many people hold an image of a fit person as their ideal companion because we’ve been inundated with media images of physically fit people since our childhoods. But due to the increase popularity of crash diets and plastic surgery, it’s getting harder to determine if good genes, hard work, or a shortcut sculpted the body you’re fixated on. If you’re a man that has no desire to be with a sedentary woman, then the action date should be your choice for the first date, so she can understand the lifestyle you prefer to live.

Expose Her to Your Interests

If you enjoy golfing, give her a lesson, but don’t make her feel incompetent if you’re an expert and she isn’t. Give her pointers so she can learn to appreciate the effort it takes to master the sport. Help her see why you love baseball, basketball, or football by teaching her how to handle the ball. You need to know if she’s comfortable and willing to try something you love.

Now remember, it doesn’t take much energy to watch a sport, so don’t take that shortcut. No matter how many women suggest you should, don’t do it. Women have mastered tolerating sports if they’re interested in a new guy. Tell your date you want to go to the batting cages together or to the park to throw around a freebee and a football, and you’ll learn if she’s willing to compromise her dating ideals and let you design a date that will uncover who she really is. Just make sure you state how much fun it will be to see her in a more relaxed atmosphere and that it won’t be some boot camp training exercise.

Experience Something New Together

If you are interested in community service projects, take your date and volunteer together. Help feed the homeless, read books to children at the local library, or help Habitat for Humanity build a home for the day. You can also pick an activity to increase your knowledge in an area you don’t know much about like a cooking lesson, an art class, wine tasting, or a dance class.

Completing a task together will help you understand if the two of you can overcome challenges as a team. You will see if a woman shuts down when she’s overwhelmed or becomes a chatty Cathy. You will also learn if she can laugh at herself, show compassion for others, and have a good time in an unusual situation. She will also learn similar things about you.

Want a Quicker Bond, Add Adrenaline

Science says you’ll bond quicker when you add a little adrenaline. The fight-or-flight mechanism always kicks in when we’re doing something we haven’t done before or haven’t done in a long time. Now don’t scare a woman off by suggesting bungee-jumping off the nearest bridge; instead think about bike riding, indoor wall climbing, riding a roller coaster, horseback riding, ice skating, etc.

Feeling a little scared to try something will make most women turn towards their date for reassurance and protection, so only attempt an adrenaline date if you’re ready to support her emotionally. She will look to you for support and encouragement, so don’t let her down.

It’s important to remember that after any type of action-date, you should have a normal post-date activity. Take her out for a meal, a quiet walk, or grab a drink. It will give you a chance to talk about the experience and assess if she enjoyed herself. If she’s smiling at you like the first time you met, ask her out for a more conventional date because now you know how comfortable she is with you.

Stay confident, handsome, and otherworldly!

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It doesn’t matter who you are, everyone enjoys observing a body in motion. The human body is a magnificent machine, and when you are interested in someone, the way they move comfortably in their skin will increase your attraction. Women often tell each other, a great dancer is great in bed, and men think all […]

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It doesn’t matter who you are, everyone enjoys observing a body in motion. The human body is a magnificent machine, and when you are interested in someone, the way they move comfortably in their skin will increase your attraction. Women often tell each other, a great dancer is great in bed, and men think all yoga enthusiasts can perform amazing sex positions. Is there some truth to these beliefs? Perhaps, but the reality is attraction is always increased when men and women watch each other move.

The Action (or adventure) date capitalizes on this notion and will keep you in a woman’s memory for a long time. The ‘lunch date’, ‘dinner and a movie’, or ‘quick drinks at the bar’ have been done many times and doesn’t feel any different, no matter how great the location. Women learn how you treat servers and what you like to eat – but the date itself isn’t eventful or memorable. They can experience the same type of date with their girlfriends and family members. It doesn’t push us out of our comfort zone and make us rely on your wisdom and expertise.

Different activities on a date will create a bond of trust in both parties and build togetherness. By embarking on an action date, a couple can start building a collection of special things they have done as a team. Think about the following, when planning an action date with a woman you’re interested in getting to know better:

Have You Always Been Active?

Yes, all of us have been asked this question and all of us say, “Yes, I like to do (fill in the blank)”, but do you know how to spot when a woman is lying about how active she is? That’s right; you plan an action date. Dancing, walking, jogging, and hiking can be done in various places. You can pack a picnic meal and hike to a nice place to enjoy the fresh air and no-pressure conversations will happen when you’re concentrating on completing a task together.

No one wants to tell a person they’re dating that their lifestyles aren’t compatible, but everyone knows, an active person prefers an equally active mate. Many people hold an image of a fit person as their ideal companion because we’ve been inundated with media images of physically fit people since our childhoods. But due to the increase popularity of crash diets and plastic surgery, it’s getting harder to determine if good genes, hard work, or a shortcut sculpted the body you’re fixated on. If you’re a man that has no desire to be with a sedentary woman, then the action date should be your choice for the first date, so she can understand the lifestyle you prefer to live.

Expose Her to Your Interests

If you enjoy golfing, give her a lesson, but don’t make her feel incompetent if you’re an expert and she isn’t. Give her pointers so she can learn to appreciate the effort it takes to master the sport. Help her see why you love baseball, basketball, or football by teaching her how to handle the ball. You need to know if she’s comfortable and willing to try something you love.

Now remember, it doesn’t take much energy to watch a sport, so don’t take that shortcut. No matter how many women suggest you should, don’t do it. Women have mastered tolerating sports if they’re interested in a new guy. Tell your date you want to go to the batting cages together or to the park to throw around a freebee and a football, and you’ll learn if she’s willing to compromise her dating ideals and let you design a date that will uncover who she really is. Just make sure you state how much fun it will be to see her in a more relaxed atmosphere and that it won’t be some boot camp training exercise.

Experience Something New Together

If you are interested in community service projects, take your date and volunteer together. Help feed the homeless, read books to children at the local library, or help Habitat for Humanity build a home for the day. You can also pick an activity to increase your knowledge in an area you don’t know much about like a cooking lesson, an art class, wine tasting, or a dance class.

Completing a task together will help you understand if the two of you can overcome challenges as a team. You will see if a woman shuts down when she’s overwhelmed or becomes a chatty Cathy. You will also learn if she can laugh at herself, show compassion for others, and have a good time in an unusual situation. She will also learn similar things about you.

Want a Quicker Bond, Add Adrenaline

Science says you’ll bond quicker when you add a little adrenaline. The fight-or-flight mechanism always kicks in when we’re doing something we haven’t done before or haven’t done in a long time. Now don’t scare a woman off by suggesting bungee-jumping off the nearest bridge; instead think about bike riding, indoor wall climbing, riding a roller coaster, horseback riding, ice skating, etc.

Feeling a little scared to try something will make most women turn towards their date for reassurance and protection, so only attempt an adrenaline date if you’re ready to support her emotionally. She will look to you for support and encouragement, so don’t let her down.

It’s important to remember that after any type of action-date, you should have a normal post-date activity. Take her out for a meal, a quiet walk, or grab a drink. It will give you a chance to talk about the experience and assess if she enjoyed herself. If she’s smiling at you like the first time you met, ask her out for a more conventional date because now you know how comfortable she is with you.

Stay confident, handsome, and otherworldly!

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Many perpetually single guys go about whining incessantly that women like “bad boys” and “thugs,” just because the women they want don’t seem to want them. Here is an actual comment from a 46-year-old man who was teaching other men how to pick up women: “Good formula you can use is the women who want […]

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Many perpetually single guys go about whining incessantly that women like “bad boys” and “thugs,” just because the women they want don’t seem to want them.

Here is an actual comment from a 46-year-old man who was teaching other men how to pick up women: “Good formula you can use is the women who want to play hard which are the ones that really only like bad guys[.] Just X them off the list immediately.”

I hate to break it to you, but maybe the woman isn’t “playing,” and maybe she doesn’t like “bad guys.” Most likely, she’s just not into you. To most people, that would be perfectly obvious, but some men’s egos won’t allow them to acknowledge that there may be something about them that turns women off.

Women who are single are taught to blame only themselves for their status. People wonder what’s wrong with a woman if she can’t seem to attract a man, or can’t seem to hold on to the men she attracts. This is the reason for stigmatizing words like “spinster.” On the other hand, most men who have been single all or most of their lives look outward only, convinced that it must be because everyone but the person in the mirror has a problem, and that everyone else has the responsibility to change themselves in order to make the single guy happy. They think: All women must have some sort of problem or mental dysfunction, because no woman wants me. When will women change what they want in guys so that I can be happy? Doesn’t this line of reasoning seem backward? If everywhere you go, women don’t seem to want you, the common denominator is you.

Some single guys like to declare themselves a “good catch” and “good guys.” If you are that perfect, then you wouldn’t be the only one who noticed. You wouldn’t need to keep repeating it, because it would be obvious to others. Try doing an honest self-evaluation:

1. Most self-described “good guys”

who are perpetually single always have a cloud of gloom and doom hanging over their heads. Some get so frustrated about not knowing how to interact with women that they start to loathe women. They need to convince themselves that women aren’t worth the effort so that they’ll no longer suffer as they pine away for women they can’t have, or have to put the effort into self-improvement, including building their social skills. Since women tend to be intuitive, many can sense your inner turmoil, and find it a turn-off. Dating and relationships are two people socially interacting, relating and establishing companionship. If you have nothing to offer socially, people won’t want to socialize with you. Would you want to be around youif you had a choice? If the honest answer is no, work on overcoming your social fears, learn the art of small talk so you can strike up a conversation with a woman, and live an interesting life so you’ll have something to talk about.

2. Are your standards realistic?

a man with unrealistic standards gets rejected

You’ll have better luck getting a date if you don’t expect of others more than what you can or are willing to give. Beauty and the Beast is just a man’s fairytale. Here on Earth, most creatures from the tiniest insects to humans go for those they find physically attractive over those they don’t when given the chance, all else being equal. If you see a gorgeous woman who takes the time to dress nicely and work out so that her body is fit and tight, don’t expect to get a date with her if you dress like a bum, and slump around drinking soda or beer and chomping on pizza until your huge gut can be seen entering the room a full minute before the rest of you follows. If you’re jobless and on the fast track to nowhere, recognize that women who plan on having a family know they’ll need care during times they can’t work due to pregnancy or nursing one young ones. Women are naturally inclined to men who can provide over those who can’t.

3. Opening doors and other chivalrous acts is fine

and will be appreciated by any woman with an ounce of dignity – but if you constantly devote the same amount of personal time and effort to helping random women that most people would reserve for a special someone, then you’ll be taken advantage of. For example, these are a few things that men have told me they’ve done for women whom they haven’t even asked out on a date: giving a woman a shoulder to cry on and a listening ear every time she’s upset over some other guy, giving her money, doing her work or homework. These men become angry, hurt and confused when a woman whom they’re always doing favors for doesn’t notice or care that they’re smitten and respond by running into their arms, begging to be their sweetheart. This is the equivalent of a woman shacking up with a man, cooking and cleaning for him and having sex with him for years – and getting confused when he won’t seal the deal with a ring. Just as a man probably won’t buy the cow if he gets the milk for free, women won’t, either. If you keep doing things for people before they’ve earned that level of devotion, then they’ll take you for granted and keep milking you. Have some boundaries, and reserve the special care for after you get into an actual, two-way, reciprocating romantic relationship of the type you’re seeking.

Do you truly believe that the male half of every couple you see is cheating on, belittling or brutally beating his woman behind closed doors, and that the female half is happily accepting his abuse? That is simply your projection and wishful thinking, to imagine that everyone who has what you wish you could is actually screwed up and secretly miserable. Work on yourself to improve your chances with women, so that you can be as happy as many couples out there.

Are there some women who deliberately date “bad boys”? Sure. These are clearly women with issues, as no healthy, well-adjusted woman of any age would prefer or enjoy being around someone who verbally, psychologically or physically abuses her. I’ve never associated with anyone who disrespects me, because I’ve always respected myself. Every woman who does tolerate abuse has very low self-esteem, psychological issues or daddy issues that make her extra vulnerable to narcissistic, abusive men. Such women are not ready to be in healthy relationships. Some may never be, and some may learn. If you are truly the “good guy” who just wants a nice relationship with a kind, reasonably attractive woman, as many of you claim, then you wouldn’t even be focused on an obviously dysfunctional woman who isn’t capable of relating to a healthy man in a healthy way.

After all, it’s no more common for young women to go for “bad boys” than it is for young men to go for “bad girls” (women who let it all hang out and give the impression that they’ll give it up quick or give it up a lot, or drama queens with a foul temper). If you’re honest, you’ll admit that wild girls receive a lot of attention. Yet most single women who dress nicely but not revealingly and don’t sleep around are not blaming their single status on men finding “bad girls” appealing. Most single women don’t rant and sob to everyone who’ll listen that the reason they’re single is because they must become strippers, nudie mag pin-ups, or porn stars in order to attract men, though a lot of men do spend a lot of time drooling over such imagery until they can’t even talk to a woman who’s not in a photo or on a screen, or their relationship falls apart if they are already in one. Instead, most good single women ask where they can find decent men, and how can they attract one. If you are focusing on dysfunctional women, it says a lot about you. It says you either have co-dependency issues that make you want to “fix” messed up women – which means you’re the other side of the same dysfunctional coin as the women you criticize – or it says you’re just jealous that you’re not the one having sex with those women – which makes you not such a good guy after all.

No one is entitled to anyone else’s company, so it’s ridiculous for someone to hate another person for not wanting him or her. Just because you want a particular woman or type of woman, it doesn’t mean you’re entitled to have her. A woman is a human being with her own individual needs, desires, feelings and thoughts. Like you, a woman has the right to not be with whomever she does not want to be with.

Claiming that women are persecuting you for being “too nice” is a cop-out. Having poor social skills or exorbitantly high standards compared to what you can offer does not automatically qualify you for the “good guy” category. Women in general find whiny men with an entitlement complex and victim complex a major turn-off, so it’s a better idea to fix yourself rather than sobbing your tales of woe to everyone who’ll listen.

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Many perpetually single guys go about whining incessantly that women like “bad boys” and “thugs,” just because the women they want don’t seem to want them. Here is an actual comment from a 46-year-old man who was teaching other men how to pick up women: “Good formula you can use is the women who want […]

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Many perpetually single guys go about whining incessantly that women like “bad boys” and “thugs,” just because the women they want don’t seem to want them.

Here is an actual comment from a 46-year-old man who was teaching other men how to pick up women: “Good formula you can use is the women who want to play hard which are the ones that really only like bad guys[.] Just X them off the list immediately.”

I hate to break it to you, but maybe the woman isn’t “playing,” and maybe she doesn’t like “bad guys.” Most likely, she’s just not into you. To most people, that would be perfectly obvious, but some men’s egos won’t allow them to acknowledge that there may be something about them that turns women off.

Women who are single are taught to blame only themselves for their status. People wonder what’s wrong with a woman if she can’t seem to attract a man, or can’t seem to hold on to the men she attracts. This is the reason for stigmatizing words like “spinster.” On the other hand, most men who have been single all or most of their lives look outward only, convinced that it must be because everyone but the person in the mirror has a problem, and that everyone else has the responsibility to change themselves in order to make the single guy happy. They think: All women must have some sort of problem or mental dysfunction, because no woman wants me. When will women change what they want in guys so that I can be happy? Doesn’t this line of reasoning seem backward? If everywhere you go, women don’t seem to want you, the common denominator is you.

Some single guys like to declare themselves a “good catch” and “good guys.” If you are that perfect, then you wouldn’t be the only one who noticed. You wouldn’t need to keep repeating it, because it would be obvious to others. Try doing an honest self-evaluation:

1. Most self-described “good guys”

who are perpetually single always have a cloud of gloom and doom hanging over their heads. Some get so frustrated about not knowing how to interact with women that they start to loathe women. They need to convince themselves that women aren’t worth the effort so that they’ll no longer suffer as they pine away for women they can’t have, or have to put the effort into self-improvement, including building their social skills. Since women tend to be intuitive, many can sense your inner turmoil, and find it a turn-off. Dating and relationships are two people socially interacting, relating and establishing companionship. If you have nothing to offer socially, people won’t want to socialize with you. Would you want to be around youif you had a choice? If the honest answer is no, work on overcoming your social fears, learn the art of small talk so you can strike up a conversation with a woman, and live an interesting life so you’ll have something to talk about.

2. Are your standards realistic?

a man with unrealistic standards gets rejected

You’ll have better luck getting a date if you don’t expect of others more than what you can or are willing to give. Beauty and the Beast is just a man’s fairytale. Here on Earth, most creatures from the tiniest insects to humans go for those they find physically attractive over those they don’t when given the chance, all else being equal. If you see a gorgeous woman who takes the time to dress nicely and work out so that her body is fit and tight, don’t expect to get a date with her if you dress like a bum, and slump around drinking soda or beer and chomping on pizza until your huge gut can be seen entering the room a full minute before the rest of you follows. If you’re jobless and on the fast track to nowhere, recognize that women who plan on having a family know they’ll need care during times they can’t work due to pregnancy or nursing one young ones. Women are naturally inclined to men who can provide over those who can’t.

3. Opening doors and other chivalrous acts is fine

and will be appreciated by any woman with an ounce of dignity – but if you constantly devote the same amount of personal time and effort to helping random women that most people would reserve for a special someone, then you’ll be taken advantage of. For example, these are a few things that men have told me they’ve done for women whom they haven’t even asked out on a date: giving a woman a shoulder to cry on and a listening ear every time she’s upset over some other guy, giving her money, doing her work or homework. These men become angry, hurt and confused when a woman whom they’re always doing favors for doesn’t notice or care that they’re smitten and respond by running into their arms, begging to be their sweetheart. This is the equivalent of a woman shacking up with a man, cooking and cleaning for him and having sex with him for years – and getting confused when he won’t seal the deal with a ring. Just as a man probably won’t buy the cow if he gets the milk for free, women won’t, either. If you keep doing things for people before they’ve earned that level of devotion, then they’ll take you for granted and keep milking you. Have some boundaries, and reserve the special care for after you get into an actual, two-way, reciprocating romantic relationship of the type you’re seeking.

Do you truly believe that the male half of every couple you see is cheating on, belittling or brutally beating his woman behind closed doors, and that the female half is happily accepting his abuse? That is simply your projection and wishful thinking, to imagine that everyone who has what you wish you could is actually screwed up and secretly miserable. Work on yourself to improve your chances with women, so that you can be as happy as many couples out there.

Are there some women who deliberately date “bad boys”? Sure. These are clearly women with issues, as no healthy, well-adjusted woman of any age would prefer or enjoy being around someone who verbally, psychologically or physically abuses her. I’ve never associated with anyone who disrespects me, because I’ve always respected myself. Every woman who does tolerate abuse has very low self-esteem, psychological issues or daddy issues that make her extra vulnerable to narcissistic, abusive men. Such women are not ready to be in healthy relationships. Some may never be, and some may learn. If you are truly the “good guy” who just wants a nice relationship with a kind, reasonably attractive woman, as many of you claim, then you wouldn’t even be focused on an obviously dysfunctional woman who isn’t capable of relating to a healthy man in a healthy way.

After all, it’s no more common for young women to go for “bad boys” than it is for young men to go for “bad girls” (women who let it all hang out and give the impression that they’ll give it up quick or give it up a lot, or drama queens with a foul temper). If you’re honest, you’ll admit that wild girls receive a lot of attention. Yet most single women who dress nicely but not revealingly and don’t sleep around are not blaming their single status on men finding “bad girls” appealing. Most single women don’t rant and sob to everyone who’ll listen that the reason they’re single is because they must become strippers, nudie mag pin-ups, or porn stars in order to attract men, though a lot of men do spend a lot of time drooling over such imagery until they can’t even talk to a woman who’s not in a photo or on a screen, or their relationship falls apart if they are already in one. Instead, most good single women ask where they can find decent men, and how can they attract one. If you are focusing on dysfunctional women, it says a lot about you. It says you either have co-dependency issues that make you want to “fix” messed up women – which means you’re the other side of the same dysfunctional coin as the women you criticize – or it says you’re just jealous that you’re not the one having sex with those women – which makes you not such a good guy after all.

No one is entitled to anyone else’s company, so it’s ridiculous for someone to hate another person for not wanting him or her. Just because you want a particular woman or type of woman, it doesn’t mean you’re entitled to have her. A woman is a human being with her own individual needs, desires, feelings and thoughts. Like you, a woman has the right to not be with whomever she does not want to be with.

Claiming that women are persecuting you for being “too nice” is a cop-out. Having poor social skills or exorbitantly high standards compared to what you can offer does not automatically qualify you for the “good guy” category. Women in general find whiny men with an entitlement complex and victim complex a major turn-off, so it’s a better idea to fix yourself rather than sobbing your tales of woe to everyone who’ll listen.

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I think it is fair to say we all shared a similar experience after our break-ups. We were imbued with a heightened sense to sounds, smells and sights. As the body as a whole goes through “hurt” of any kind we find our reactions to the same stimuli take on different meanings. Take the example […]

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I think it is fair to say we all shared a similar experience after our break-ups.

We were imbued with a heightened sense to sounds, smells and sights. As the body as a whole goes through “hurt” of any kind we find our reactions to the same stimuli take on different meanings.

Take the example of music. We all love it and connect with it on some level.

After your breakup how were you effected?

Did you find it difficult to hear certain tunes without getting upset? Perhaps you enjoyed some of those same songs with your ex and now they simply remind you of “old times”. For myself I found even certain types of music held so much emotion and memory that I just had to change it because the tears would come.

Music has great power, we should never underestimate its ability to soothe, heal or even bring back vivid memories.

Being an avid music lover of many genre’s I have found some music I wanted to share that might help you as it did me. Let’s face it break up songs or even songs with fairytale endings may not be the best for rotation in our ipods right now during our heightened sensitivity to emotion and memory. Realize though that in time you may be able to come back to some of those favorites and not attach them to negative emotions.

Give yourself some time.

For others it may be time to start building your musical libraries with new stuff your ex will never hear.

Your Recovery Mix.

You can then associate this with new positive memories, not old negative ones.

I have chosen some songs that represent different stages we go through with a brief description about the song. Some of these tunes are inspirational and others are sharp and witty. All of them should have the opportunity to conjure up some good memories for you as they have me.

Enjoy!

Marillion – Happiness Is The Road

This tune by longtime UK band Marillion is a story of inspiration and fighting our minds to live in the moment and enjoy the “road” or journey in life.
This lyrical version is included here but check out the live version if you enjoy it. The songs message is epic!

Nik Kershaw – Somebody Loves You

80′s Popular Artist Nik Kershaw is known worldwide for his artful songwriting and witty lyrics, this track reminds us that “Somebody Loves You” and you can be those hands reaching out to help somebody too!

Hurts – Illuminated

Sythpop Band Hurts plays perfectly to our emotions in this song featuring beautiful lines and lungs, “romace your ego for a while”.

Be Illuminated!

Toto – I Will Remember

Go ahead and cry – this poignant song hurts and heals with a message that will ring true for many of us.

“Even when love has come and gone and our hearts have moved along, I will remember”.

We won’t forget but will jar those memories and file them appropriately.

De/Vision – Love Will Find A Way

Tap your foot and let your mind reflect on a happier future.

“Love will find a way home, a way back home to you”.

Life’s tough lessons and challenges are definitely not what we want to feel right now but can be a “blessing in disguise”.

So learn who you are, fix yourself and love again.

Maybe these songs will spark your interest and allow you some new chewing gum for the mind and ears.

Learn, sing and be inspired to love and laugh everyday.

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I think it is fair to say we all shared a similar experience after our break-ups. We were imbued with a heightened sense to sounds, smells and sights. As the body as a whole goes through “hurt” of any kind we find our reactions to the same stimuli take on different meanings. Take the example […]

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I think it is fair to say we all shared a similar experience after our break-ups.

We were imbued with a heightened sense to sounds, smells and sights. As the body as a whole goes through “hurt” of any kind we find our reactions to the same stimuli take on different meanings.

Take the example of music. We all love it and connect with it on some level.

After your breakup how were you effected?

Did you find it difficult to hear certain tunes without getting upset? Perhaps you enjoyed some of those same songs with your ex and now they simply remind you of “old times”. For myself I found even certain types of music held so much emotion and memory that I just had to change it because the tears would come.

Music has great power, we should never underestimate its ability to soothe, heal or even bring back vivid memories.

Being an avid music lover of many genre’s I have found some music I wanted to share that might help you as it did me. Let’s face it break up songs or even songs with fairytale endings may not be the best for rotation in our ipods right now during our heightened sensitivity to emotion and memory. Realize though that in time you may be able to come back to some of those favorites and not attach them to negative emotions.

Give yourself some time.

For others it may be time to start building your musical libraries with new stuff your ex will never hear.

Your Recovery Mix.

You can then associate this with new positive memories, not old negative ones.

I have chosen some songs that represent different stages we go through with a brief description about the song. Some of these tunes are inspirational and others are sharp and witty. All of them should have the opportunity to conjure up some good memories for you as they have me.

Enjoy!

Marillion – Happiness Is The Road

This tune by longtime UK band Marillion is a story of inspiration and fighting our minds to live in the moment and enjoy the “road” or journey in life.
This lyrical version is included here but check out the live version if you enjoy it. The songs message is epic!

Nik Kershaw – Somebody Loves You

80′s Popular Artist Nik Kershaw is known worldwide for his artful songwriting and witty lyrics, this track reminds us that “Somebody Loves You” and you can be those hands reaching out to help somebody too!

Hurts – Illuminated

Sythpop Band Hurts plays perfectly to our emotions in this song featuring beautiful lines and lungs, “romace your ego for a while”.

Be Illuminated!

Toto – I Will Remember

Go ahead and cry – this poignant song hurts and heals with a message that will ring true for many of us.

“Even when love has come and gone and our hearts have moved along, I will remember”.

We won’t forget but will jar those memories and file them appropriately.

De/Vision – Love Will Find A Way

Tap your foot and let your mind reflect on a happier future.

“Love will find a way home, a way back home to you”.

Life’s tough lessons and challenges are definitely not what we want to feel right now but can be a “blessing in disguise”.

So learn who you are, fix yourself and love again.

Maybe these songs will spark your interest and allow you some new chewing gum for the mind and ears.

Learn, sing and be inspired to love and laugh everyday.

The post How To Use Music To Aid Your Breakup Recovery appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Healing When it comes to the past, baggage from past relationships could damage plus even stop future relationships from forming. This really is why healing from the past is key inside acquiring love. This is through; guidance, spending time for oneself, getting closure, or speaking it over with somebody close. Healing is a required step […]

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Healing

When it comes to the past, baggage from past relationships could damage plus even stop future relationships from forming. This really is why healing from the past is key inside acquiring love. This is through; guidance, spending time for oneself, getting closure, or speaking it over with somebody close. Healing is a required step before moving about to a unique relationship.

Put out an optimistic energy

Outside of the time we spend together, individuals may either think superior of we or bad. We like to have a positive power regarding oneself. Whenever folks are uplifted whenever they think of we, it really is an environment which is conductive to love. Avoid bad attitudes plus moody comments we might be creating. This is completed by staying found on the wise side of elements, by constantly providing optimistic suggestions regarding folks plus cases.

One method of influencing the technique persons consider we is to constantly provide compliments for them. This will paint we out to be a superior individual, plus folks usually like we more.

Having character

Many folks don’t fall inside love with their spouses at initially sight. Many folks fall inside love with somebody over the course of time, following they have thought it by plus decided they will be a healthy match for every alternative, this really is why character is imperative. It’s much like an interview which lasts a month; you ought to be creating an impression about them for a considerable amount of amount of time in purchase for love to develop.

Things like speaking behind peoples back, being indicate, plus having a damaging stamina regarding you’ll create a damaging impression about them. If this really is the case, they might subconsciously choose we aren’t a wise match for them. On the different hand should you have worked about character, traits which persons find great, they can choose which you’d be somebody they might like to be with.

Trying the new

Trying new escapades is a habit which might discover love inside 2 methods. The initial is the fact that it broadens the regions plus individuals that you meet, permitting we to bump into the appropriate individual. The 2nd is the fact that more adventurous folks are more captivating by nature; folks love others that are full of lifetime plus reside it to the fullest.

The proper posse

Perhaps it’s the individuals we hang about with. The incorrect folks may pull we down with their bad attitudes plus words, they could additionally affect your; mood, time, plus objectives of acquiring love. Or perhaps they are creating the incorrect impression found on the individuals about we. Either technique, you might have to invest less time with them, plus surround oneself with all the proper individuals.

Stay with a standards

Knowing a value plus not settling for any guy usually assist you see true love. Simply considering you’ve met a guy, doesn’t usually mean he’s a advantageous guy. Many guys aren’t able of offering we the true love which we need. By being inside a relationship with all the incorrect guy, you may be only taking time away from Mr. Right. Understand a specifications of what we need inside a relationship plus fix for them. By rejecting guys that don’t reside as much as a expectations of love, you’re really generating area for Mr. Right to come inside.

A great deal of individuals think which love can really appear without recognizing which there are aspects you need to do to create love come along. Building these behavior is an important step for love to happen, thus take charge of the love existence, plus place these practices inside area.

The post 6 Personality Traits to Improve to Assist We Find Love appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Healing When it comes to the past, baggage from past relationships could damage plus even stop future relationships from forming. This really is why healing from the past is key inside acquiring love. This is through; guidance, spending time for oneself, getting closure, or speaking it over with somebody close. Healing is a required step […]

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Healing

When it comes to the past, baggage from past relationships could damage plus even stop future relationships from forming. This really is why healing from the past is key inside acquiring love. This is through; guidance, spending time for oneself, getting closure, or speaking it over with somebody close. Healing is a required step before moving about to a unique relationship.

Put out an optimistic energy

Outside of the time we spend together, individuals may either think superior of we or bad. We like to have a positive power regarding oneself. Whenever folks are uplifted whenever they think of we, it really is an environment which is conductive to love. Avoid bad attitudes plus moody comments we might be creating. This is completed by staying found on the wise side of elements, by constantly providing optimistic suggestions regarding folks plus cases.

One method of influencing the technique persons consider we is to constantly provide compliments for them. This will paint we out to be a superior individual, plus folks usually like we more.

Having character

Many folks don’t fall inside love with their spouses at initially sight. Many folks fall inside love with somebody over the course of time, following they have thought it by plus decided they will be a healthy match for every alternative, this really is why character is imperative. It’s much like an interview which lasts a month; you ought to be creating an impression about them for a considerable amount of amount of time in purchase for love to develop.

Things like speaking behind peoples back, being indicate, plus having a damaging stamina regarding you’ll create a damaging impression about them. If this really is the case, they might subconsciously choose we aren’t a wise match for them. On the different hand should you have worked about character, traits which persons find great, they can choose which you’d be somebody they might like to be with.

Trying the new

Trying new escapades is a habit which might discover love inside 2 methods. The initial is the fact that it broadens the regions plus individuals that you meet, permitting we to bump into the appropriate individual. The 2nd is the fact that more adventurous folks are more captivating by nature; folks love others that are full of lifetime plus reside it to the fullest.

The proper posse

Perhaps it’s the individuals we hang about with. The incorrect folks may pull we down with their bad attitudes plus words, they could additionally affect your; mood, time, plus objectives of acquiring love. Or perhaps they are creating the incorrect impression found on the individuals about we. Either technique, you might have to invest less time with them, plus surround oneself with all the proper individuals.

Stay with a standards

Knowing a value plus not settling for any guy usually assist you see true love. Simply considering you’ve met a guy, doesn’t usually mean he’s a advantageous guy. Many guys aren’t able of offering we the true love which we need. By being inside a relationship with all the incorrect guy, you may be only taking time away from Mr. Right. Understand a specifications of what we need inside a relationship plus fix for them. By rejecting guys that don’t reside as much as a expectations of love, you’re really generating area for Mr. Right to come inside.

A great deal of individuals think which love can really appear without recognizing which there are aspects you need to do to create love come along. Building these behavior is an important step for love to happen, thus take charge of the love existence, plus place these practices inside area.

The post 6 Personality Traits to Improve to Assist We Find Love appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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